Book Review ~ Part 1:
Say What You Mean Get What You Want: A Businessperson’s Guide to Direct Communication
by Judith C. Tingley
For my first blog post I am going to perform a quick review of the beginning of the book Say What You Mean Get What You Want, written by Judith C. Tingley, a psychologist and Ph.D. out of Arizona.
Preface, Intro, and Chapter 1:
I wasn’t particularly worried about my communication style before picking up this book, but within the first chapter Tingley presents a self-assessment that, as a sucker for self-assessment, got my attention. According to the test, I am considered a “non-assertive” and too-close-for-comfort to a “non-aggressive”… not good. This must be fixed! And now I’m intrigued; a book that I originally chose because it looked short enough that I would probably actually finish it might even help me.
Who the Book is For:
Despite being written in the nineties for people who have difficulty communicating in the workplace, Tingley’s points are all still relevant; that most businesspeople need help with:
Keeping your cool
Standing your ground (*Arguably unfortunate word choice in 2014)
Reaching positive solutions or holding your own in any situation with confidence and poise
Expressing ideas without alienating others
Getting your point across without blowing up
Earning others’ respect
Confronting people in a way that minimizes defensiveness and hostility
In my next article, Say What You Mean Get What You Want ~ Part 2, I’ll review Tingley’s “Seven Steps for Effective Communication.”